Adar II 5771
Purim – Inner Simcha
by Mrs. Ilana Cowland
Mrs. Ilana Cowland has been living in Jerusalem with her family for seven years. Prior to that, she ran the Women’s Educational Programme in Aish UK. Mrs. Cowland is an international lecturer in women’s issues and relationships, and she has been involved in educational administration. She now works as a Rakezet and Inyanei Noshim teacher in Tomer Devorah and Baer Miriam in Jerusalem and runs sholom bayis workshops for married women in and around the Jerusalem area.
Us Jews get a big kick out of feeling so proud of ourselves that we have such a holy and focused new year whilst the rest of the world is partying and yet, when it comes to Purim, the holiday we consider our holiest, what do we do? We get drunk!! What’s going on?
The Orchos Tzadikim teaches us that simcha is inside all of us. That’s a very heavy statement. It means that simcha is not found outside, meaning it’s not my circumstances that make me happy. Two people can be experiencing the same difficulties in college, at home, whilst dating and one person is totally in tune with her internal sense of simcha whilst the other is feeling depressed. So if it’s not the circumstances getting in the way of me feeling happy, what exactly is? Read the next sentence slowly, it’s very important. It’s not the circumstances that get in the way, it’s the thoughts I process regarding the circumstances. We both had an impossible paper today. I say, it was so hard, I’m failing, you say, it was so challenging, I’m learning. Same paper? Yes, same paper. Your thoughts were in line with your sense of simcha and mine stood in the way. My ability to be healthy and happy is inside me, as we see it in every little child. I can create a script of thoughts that separate me from it and end up being defined by my negative thoughts instead of my natural simcha.
On Yom Kippor, the quick route to holiness, we remove ourselves from the pull of our body by fasting. On Purim, we take it one step further. To feel the power of my soul, the power of my joy and my joyful connection to Hashem, we remove ourselves from the pull of our thoughts, as symbolised by getting drunk. When my thinking is removed, I have access to joy. Even when you don’t get drunk this year, and even when Purim’s over and there’s a whole year to go before the alcohol reemerges, remember the lesson of Purim. When your negative thinking doesn’t distract you, you’re on the way to blissful simcha, health and well being that’s waiting inside of you for you to find.